The Javanese Wedding

Listen To Your Gamelan

Gamelan Jawa - Pangkur Nyamat...

Sunday, March 6, 2011


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After sungkeman is finish, the bride and groom will change their outfit. The bride will take off her kebaya and change it with a jasmine cape, while the groom will take off his belangkon (traditional hat) and tux, change the "jarik" traditional cloth to "jumputan" pattern, and also wear a jasmine cape.

The bride and groom will be fetch by their parents from the changing room to Siraman stage, where all guests who are very fascinating enjoying the ceremony has been gathered.

As mentioned before, in Siraman, parents and elderly will bathing the bride and groom with flowers and water from the seven sources, aiming they will be pure approaching their wedding day. The seven sources of water which has been collected before could source from mosque, keraton (Java emperor kingdom), church, houses
or else where which consider as a good source of water.

Elderly who will bathing the bride and groom are expected to be person that already married and have a good marriage, not a divorcee. This expected will bring a good marriage for the New Couple. This could be their grandparents, parents, aunties, and uncles, or other which respected..

Person who will bathing the couples are expected to be in uneven number. Javanese people is believing uneven number are the best and only God who can make it even. So that it could be 5, 7,9, or more people could bathing the couple including the parents.

The Siraman shall begin when bride / groom fetch by their parents to the Siraman stage and they will sitting on a chair which has been prepared.

Mother will take 5 colored traditional soap which in Javanese mentioned as Konyoh Pancawarna, red, white, yellow, green and blue. These soap made from rice flour which mixed with kencur, a Javanese spice. With these soap, expected the bride and groom will have a shining skin on the wedding day. These soap will be mixed altogether and smeared on their face (forehead, both cheeks), hands, and legs.

Afterward, father will start to bath the Bride / groom from the head, shoulder to the legs, continue with mother. And then the elderly will be announce one by one to bath the couple and will receive a souvenir as appreciation from the couple.

Soon after the last elder bathing them, father will take a jug of water and cleanse all of the remaining flowers in the bride / groom body. For moslem, they will take this water for "wudhu" a part of stage before pray to Allah. As the water finish, father will give the jug to mother who will throw the jug to the floor into pieces. When she throw this she will mention that she doesn't have intention to break the jug but she wills to break the aura so that the bride / groom will look shining on the wedding day.

The ceremony will continue with cutting bit of the bride / groom hair in order to vanish all troubles. Father will start to cut the hair from 3 part and continue with mother. Later on the couples hair will be united and plant altogether in the Bride's house. The messenger who was bringing water to the groom's house will return to Bride's house with the piece of Groom's hair.

As the last thing to do in this ceremony, father and mother will cooperate to cary and hold the bride together as their last thing to do for their child who will about to marry.

The siraman ceremony has been finished. The bride and groom could take a shower and will continue the preparation for "midodareni" or we shall call it a bachelor and bachelorette party in Javanese term.