Fourth : UNDERSTANDING THE CEREMONY DAY 2

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After the long preparation a day before, today is the D day when the holy matrimony, wedding vows, or the marriage will be announced and will be followed with panggih ceremony and wedding reception

a. Marriage / Holy Matrimony
This will be based on couples religion, the ceremony will be differed from the cultural ceremony. The place could take in the church, mosque, the reception building, house, etc.

b. Panggih ceremony
Panggih in Javanese language mean "meeting between the post marriage couple", which the stages consist of

Delivery of Sanggan (banana) from the Groom's Family to The Bride as a symbol of appreciation from the in laws.

Balangan (betel leaves throwing event between the couples within 3m range). In the old days if one of the couples is not a human, it will disappear with the throwed leaves.

Wiji Dadi (Stepping the egg) in this ceremony, the Groom will stepping the egg and afterward will be washed by the bride using the flowery water as a symbol of dedication to her responsible husband.

Sindur Banayung (Sindur is a red shawl with white zigzag edges) which put around the newlywed couple by Bride's mother who's holding the couple from behind, while the couple will walk onto the wedding stage and lead by Bride's father. This is symbolize Parents are showing the way to the happiness in the after marriage life. Zigzag pattern in the shawl shows that life is not straight but has many problem along the road.

Timbangan (Scaling Weight) At the stage, the Newlywed's couple will sit on bride's father lap, and Bride's mother will ask who is heavier, and Father will answer that both of couple has the same weight. The meaning is thye love for his daughter and son in law is equal.

Tanem (planting) which the Bride's father will put the Newlywed to their sit which means that their wedding is receive his permission and blessing.

Kacar-kucur (pouring) in this ceremony, the Groom will pour a pocket of seeds consist of soybeans, nuts, rice, corn, yellow rice, flower, and coins, to a cloth on hhis wife's lap. The meaning of this ceremony is that husband will give all of his income to his wife, who will manage it well and full of responsibility.

Dahar kembul (Eating) In this ceremony, the Newlywed will eat in the same dishes, and feeding each other. The meaning is that they will stay together is the sad and happy time.

After panggih ceremony finish, the following event is Sungkeman with both parents and in laws.

c. The Wedding Reception
Upon reception, the Newlywed will enter the hall guided by cucuk lampah (man who in his dance will lead the newlywed and show them the way to the stage). Newlywed will be follwed by parents and in laws, brother and sisters and also closest relatives. This procession is call Kirab

After the Newlywed and parents come to the stage, the reception could be begun with first speech from the closest relatives, praying, dancing and congratulates the Newlywed. And the guest could just enjoy the reception surroundings with Java Atmosphere and eat marvelous cuisine. in this modern era, the reception will take place for 2 hrs and it will be ended with photo session with the Newlywed.