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Sunday, April 3, 2011
THE WEDDING VOWS
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The wedding vows is the first ceremony on Day two..finally the the historical and tension moment.
In Javanese wedding, the culture and the religion will be blended on this day, but you can always opt to have religion ceremony only for the wedding vows. The place which ceremony be held, is optional, you can do this at the mosque, church, house, or directly at the reception building
If you will mix this with Javanese culture, the ceremony will be started with delegation of the Groom by his family member to the Bride's family member. Symbolize that the Groom has been ready to marry the bride. The Groom will be accompany by his 2 uncles or brother and 1 of elderly who will deliver the speech. The bride's family will accept him with 2 companion and also elderly who will answer the speech.
After the brief speech and shake hands on both family, the Groom will be accompanied by the Bride's family entering the hall and he may sit on the prepared chair with "keris" or Javanese traditional weapon taken from his back.
As the Groom ready, the Bride will enter the hall accompany by her 2 aunties and be seated next to the Groom. The Wedding Vows ceremony shall begin with religion accordance.
The wedding vows is the first ceremony on Day two..finally the the historical and tension moment.
In Javanese wedding, the culture and the religion will be blended on this day, but you can always opt to have religion ceremony only for the wedding vows. The place which ceremony be held, is optional, you can do this at the mosque, church, house, or directly at the reception building
If you will mix this with Javanese culture, the ceremony will be started with delegation of the Groom by his family member to the Bride's family member. Symbolize that the Groom has been ready to marry the bride. The Groom will be accompany by his 2 uncles or brother and 1 of elderly who will deliver the speech. The bride's family will accept him with 2 companion and also elderly who will answer the speech.
After the brief speech and shake hands on both family, the Groom will be accompanied by the Bride's family entering the hall and he may sit on the prepared chair with "keris" or Javanese traditional weapon taken from his back.
As the Groom ready, the Bride will enter the hall accompany by her 2 aunties and be seated next to the Groom. The Wedding Vows ceremony shall begin with religion accordance.
Wednesday, March 23, 2011
MIDODARENI
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Midodareni is a final stage of ceremony prior the wedding day, whereas the Groom will come to Bride's Home and emphasize his wills in marrying the Bride. In this ceremony both of them should not meet each other. Even in the past day, both of couple should not meet for 40 days before their wedding time. But in this modern era, the rules has been much change.
I will call this a traditional bachelorette party in Javanese version. Midodareni comes from the word "widodari" which means angel in Javanese term. Belief, that lots of angel will come to the earth and beautifies the bride to be. The bride will hide in her room until the ceremony finishes, and all of her girl friends can accompany her at that time to calm her prior the BIG day. The room which used, is very well decorated with flowers, and will be used after the wedding day as the Newlywed Room. Usually the couple will stay in the bride's parents house for a moment until they will be leaving. But this is optional, in this modern era, lots of couple go directly for their honeymoon or their new house.
In Midodareni, the Groom may come with his both parents, or only represent by his uncles. This is optional, but in my ceremony, both of the groom parents came, along with his big family. They will sit in chairs which has been prepared, opposite to the Bride's family, therefore they can see each other. Groom and his parents will sit in front of Bride's parents.
The ceremony shall begin by opening from the Javanese MC, and continue with representative from both family. The representative from Groom family will utter their aim of visit that is "the Groom has been ready to marry the Bride". They are also bring lots of gift to be given to the Bride and seeking for the Bride's response.(the gifts are called seserahan, that are uneven basket which filled with lady equipment from top to bottom, such as clothing, skirt, shoes, bags, kebaya, traditional cloth, underwear, toiletries, others). The basket could be 5, 7, 9, 11 or more.
To answer the Groom's family query, Bride's parents will need to ask their daughter, which is called Tantingan. What will be her response to the Groom's readiness to marry her? Does she accept it? Does she also in Love with this man?
Well I do, so I answered that I also in love with him quickly and willing to marry him. In return I asked my father to read "Catur Wedha" to the Groom which are 4 advices that should be used as a guideline in the marriage life.
The 4 advices which read to the Groom are mentioning that starts tomorrow both of them will unite as one and they should love, respect, and appreciate each other. Furthermore, both of the couple also should respect and appreciate their parents and in-laws. In the society, they should be citizens who are responsible, have a good attitude, honest, respect others and not differ them through their group of society, religion, or others. They need to be faithful and love God, so that God will always guide them in every step of their way.
Afterward the Bride's mother will give " Toyo Wening" or water to the Groom and he may not eat dinner. This is a tradition from the ancient time which is still carry on until today, the meaning in the past, the Groom should be avoid to eat to prevent bad luck, or food poisoning should there's someone unwanted him marrying the bride. But for all other guests, it is time to have dinner and chattering with the other family member.
After dinner, time to go home, but prior that, the Bride's parents will give " Kancing Gelung" which consist of traditional java tuxedo, cloth, keris (traditional java sword), and all of the equipment to be used by the Groom in the wedding day. Keris in the past time, was a sword that passed to the Groom, so that he can protect his family from the evil. In this modern time, it works only as a symbol. " Angsul-Angsul" are gifts which given as return to the Groom's family, which contain food, fruit, cookies, others that could be eat as breakfast in the next day. These also provided in uneven number of basket.
After the Groom's family return home, the rest of the night will be used for the Bride and Groom to sleep and take some rest after the long long day. They need to recharge their energy to face the next harsh day..the WEDDING DAY...
Midodareni is a final stage of ceremony prior the wedding day, whereas the Groom will come to Bride's Home and emphasize his wills in marrying the Bride. In this ceremony both of them should not meet each other. Even in the past day, both of couple should not meet for 40 days before their wedding time. But in this modern era, the rules has been much change.
I will call this a traditional bachelorette party in Javanese version. Midodareni comes from the word "widodari" which means angel in Javanese term. Belief, that lots of angel will come to the earth and beautifies the bride to be. The bride will hide in her room until the ceremony finishes, and all of her girl friends can accompany her at that time to calm her prior the BIG day. The room which used, is very well decorated with flowers, and will be used after the wedding day as the Newlywed Room. Usually the couple will stay in the bride's parents house for a moment until they will be leaving. But this is optional, in this modern era, lots of couple go directly for their honeymoon or their new house.
In Midodareni, the Groom may come with his both parents, or only represent by his uncles. This is optional, but in my ceremony, both of the groom parents came, along with his big family. They will sit in chairs which has been prepared, opposite to the Bride's family, therefore they can see each other. Groom and his parents will sit in front of Bride's parents.
The ceremony shall begin by opening from the Javanese MC, and continue with representative from both family. The representative from Groom family will utter their aim of visit that is "the Groom has been ready to marry the Bride". They are also bring lots of gift to be given to the Bride and seeking for the Bride's response.(the gifts are called seserahan, that are uneven basket which filled with lady equipment from top to bottom, such as clothing, skirt, shoes, bags, kebaya, traditional cloth, underwear, toiletries, others). The basket could be 5, 7, 9, 11 or more.
To answer the Groom's family query, Bride's parents will need to ask their daughter, which is called Tantingan. What will be her response to the Groom's readiness to marry her? Does she accept it? Does she also in Love with this man?
Well I do, so I answered that I also in love with him quickly and willing to marry him. In return I asked my father to read "Catur Wedha" to the Groom which are 4 advices that should be used as a guideline in the marriage life.
The 4 advices which read to the Groom are mentioning that starts tomorrow both of them will unite as one and they should love, respect, and appreciate each other. Furthermore, both of the couple also should respect and appreciate their parents and in-laws. In the society, they should be citizens who are responsible, have a good attitude, honest, respect others and not differ them through their group of society, religion, or others. They need to be faithful and love God, so that God will always guide them in every step of their way.
Afterward the Bride's mother will give " Toyo Wening" or water to the Groom and he may not eat dinner. This is a tradition from the ancient time which is still carry on until today, the meaning in the past, the Groom should be avoid to eat to prevent bad luck, or food poisoning should there's someone unwanted him marrying the bride. But for all other guests, it is time to have dinner and chattering with the other family member.
After dinner, time to go home, but prior that, the Bride's parents will give " Kancing Gelung" which consist of traditional java tuxedo, cloth, keris (traditional java sword), and all of the equipment to be used by the Groom in the wedding day. Keris in the past time, was a sword that passed to the Groom, so that he can protect his family from the evil. In this modern time, it works only as a symbol. " Angsul-Angsul" are gifts which given as return to the Groom's family, which contain food, fruit, cookies, others that could be eat as breakfast in the next day. These also provided in uneven number of basket.
After the Groom's family return home, the rest of the night will be used for the Bride and Groom to sleep and take some rest after the long long day. They need to recharge their energy to face the next harsh day..the WEDDING DAY...
Saturday, March 19, 2011
DULANG PUNGKASAN
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"The last meal", I think we can call it that way. It is a stage of ceremony prior midodareni evening, when the parents of bride and groom to be will feed them their last meal as if in their childhood, and their soon will be married and not will be under the parents supervision anymore.
On this stage, "Nasi Tumpeng, a cone formed rice, with its variety of side dishes will be prepared. Father will cut the top of the cone and mother will pick the side dishes, every details of the side dishes for Javanese people has their own meaning. As egg that symbolize expectation that the bride will soon be pregnant, vegetable or "sayur mayur" will put hope that the couple will be loved by their family or "sedulur" in Javanese term. The rest of the cone will be cut in for direction which symbolize the point arrow, North, South, East and West which will vanish their trouble in their life.
Soon, after making up and as the bride and groom ready, this stage of ceremony could be done in a beautiful decorated area.
"The last meal", I think we can call it that way. It is a stage of ceremony prior midodareni evening, when the parents of bride and groom to be will feed them their last meal as if in their childhood, and their soon will be married and not will be under the parents supervision anymore.
On this stage, "Nasi Tumpeng, a cone formed rice, with its variety of side dishes will be prepared. Father will cut the top of the cone and mother will pick the side dishes, every details of the side dishes for Javanese people has their own meaning. As egg that symbolize expectation that the bride will soon be pregnant, vegetable or "sayur mayur" will put hope that the couple will be loved by their family or "sedulur" in Javanese term. The rest of the cone will be cut in for direction which symbolize the point arrow, North, South, East and West which will vanish their trouble in their life.
Soon, after making up and as the bride and groom ready, this stage of ceremony could be done in a beautiful decorated area.
Wednesday, March 9, 2011
MELEPAS AYAM
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This is one a full of excitement part in Siraman ceremony prior Midodareni evening. "Melepas Ayam" I couldn't find the right translation for this, but literally it means releasing a chicken. For the bride's family the parents will release a hen, and for the groom's a rooster.
The meaning for this part is that the parents has letting go their children to go outside their house, finding a new path with their chosen one and hopefully able to live the life independently without their parents help.
Every guests is very exciting for this ceremony, the father will take sides and together with her wife release the chicken to the air. The lucky one can catch it and bring it home.
The funny thing about the hen which released at this ceremony, when it lay eggs, the same time I know that I'm pregnant.. haha..whether it was just a coincidence.. or a fulfilled expectation...
This is one a full of excitement part in Siraman ceremony prior Midodareni evening. "Melepas Ayam" I couldn't find the right translation for this, but literally it means releasing a chicken. For the bride's family the parents will release a hen, and for the groom's a rooster.
The meaning for this part is that the parents has letting go their children to go outside their house, finding a new path with their chosen one and hopefully able to live the life independently without their parents help.
Every guests is very exciting for this ceremony, the father will take sides and together with her wife release the chicken to the air. The lucky one can catch it and bring it home.
The funny thing about the hen which released at this ceremony, when it lay eggs, the same time I know that I'm pregnant.. haha..whether it was just a coincidence.. or a fulfilled expectation...
Monday, March 7, 2011
DODOL DAWET
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Siraman has finished. Now the bride and the groom may taking their shower and prepare for Midodareni or bachelorette and bachelor party for Javanese people.
While waiting the Bride to look perfect in the evening. All the guest in the Bride's home were entertained with a small show from the Bride parents. They are selling "dawet" a sweet dessert consist of coconut milk, a worm-like jelly made from rice flour with green food coloring (usually derived from the pandan leaf), shaved ice and palm sugar. Next to these basic recipe, other ingredients such as jack fruit and tapai or traditional fermented cassava might be included.
In the show, the Mother will act as a "dawet" seller, and father will help her to prepare and shade her with the umbrella. The guest will pay with a "kreweng" which made of piece terracotta roof tile. Father will receive the payment and give it to the mother. Part of family member, younger sister could help to distribute "kreweng" to every guest for pay for dawet prior they center around the sweet tasteful drink.
The meaning of this show is actually very deep, it showing the bride how is a couple cooperating in selling dawet to earn their living. Payment with kreweng which come from terracotta shows that our live is coming from the earth. Dawet which sold also giving expectation that the couple to be will have a big fortune and live a sweet life as if dawet.
Siraman has finished. Now the bride and the groom may taking their shower and prepare for Midodareni or bachelorette and bachelor party for Javanese people.
While waiting the Bride to look perfect in the evening. All the guest in the Bride's home were entertained with a small show from the Bride parents. They are selling "dawet" a sweet dessert consist of coconut milk, a worm-like jelly made from rice flour with green food coloring (usually derived from the pandan leaf), shaved ice and palm sugar. Next to these basic recipe, other ingredients such as jack fruit and tapai or traditional fermented cassava might be included.
In the show, the Mother will act as a "dawet" seller, and father will help her to prepare and shade her with the umbrella. The guest will pay with a "kreweng" which made of piece terracotta roof tile. Father will receive the payment and give it to the mother. Part of family member, younger sister could help to distribute "kreweng" to every guest for pay for dawet prior they center around the sweet tasteful drink.
The meaning of this show is actually very deep, it showing the bride how is a couple cooperating in selling dawet to earn their living. Payment with kreweng which come from terracotta shows that our live is coming from the earth. Dawet which sold also giving expectation that the couple to be will have a big fortune and live a sweet life as if dawet.
Sunday, March 6, 2011
SIRAMAN
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After sungkeman is finish, the bride and groom will change their outfit. The bride will take off her kebaya and change it with a jasmine cape, while the groom will take off his belangkon (traditional hat) and tux, change the "jarik" traditional cloth to "jumputan" pattern, and also wear a jasmine cape.
The bride and groom will be fetch by their parents from the changing room to Siraman stage, where all guests who are very fascinating enjoying the ceremony has been gathered.
As mentioned before, in Siraman, parents and elderly will bathing the bride and groom with flowers and water from the seven sources, aiming they will be pure approaching their wedding day. The seven sources of water which has been collected before could source from mosque, keraton (Java emperor kingdom), church, houses
or else where which consider as a good source of water.
Elderly who will bathing the bride and groom are expected to be person that already married and have a good marriage, not a divorcee. This expected will bring a good marriage for the New Couple. This could be their grandparents, parents, aunties, and uncles, or other which respected..
Person who will bathing the couples are expected to be in uneven number. Javanese people is believing uneven number are the best and only God who can make it even. So that it could be 5, 7,9, or more people could bathing the couple including the parents.
The Siraman shall begin when bride / groom fetch by their parents to the Siraman stage and they will sitting on a chair which has been prepared.
Mother will take 5 colored traditional soap which in Javanese mentioned as Konyoh Pancawarna, red, white, yellow, green and blue. These soap made from rice flour which mixed with kencur, a Javanese spice. With these soap, expected the bride and groom will have a shining skin on the wedding day. These soap will be mixed altogether and smeared on their face (forehead, both cheeks), hands, and legs.
Afterward, father will start to bath the Bride / groom from the head, shoulder to the legs, continue with mother. And then the elderly will be announce one by one to bath the couple and will receive a souvenir as appreciation from the couple.
Soon after the last elder bathing them, father will take a jug of water and cleanse all of the remaining flowers in the bride / groom body. For moslem, they will take this water for "wudhu" a part of stage before pray to Allah. As the water finish, father will give the jug to mother who will throw the jug to the floor into pieces. When she throw this she will mention that she doesn't have intention to break the jug but she wills to break the aura so that the bride / groom will look shining on the wedding day.
The ceremony will continue with cutting bit of the bride / groom hair in order to vanish all troubles. Father will start to cut the hair from 3 part and continue with mother. Later on the couples hair will be united and plant altogether in the Bride's house. The messenger who was bringing water to the groom's house will return to Bride's house with the piece of Groom's hair.
As the last thing to do in this ceremony, father and mother will cooperate to cary and hold the bride together as their last thing to do for their child who will about to marry.
The siraman ceremony has been finished. The bride and groom could take a shower and will continue the preparation for "midodareni" or we shall call it a bachelor and bachelorette party in Javanese term.
After sungkeman is finish, the bride and groom will change their outfit. The bride will take off her kebaya and change it with a jasmine cape, while the groom will take off his belangkon (traditional hat) and tux, change the "jarik" traditional cloth to "jumputan" pattern, and also wear a jasmine cape.
The bride and groom will be fetch by their parents from the changing room to Siraman stage, where all guests who are very fascinating enjoying the ceremony has been gathered.
As mentioned before, in Siraman, parents and elderly will bathing the bride and groom with flowers and water from the seven sources, aiming they will be pure approaching their wedding day. The seven sources of water which has been collected before could source from mosque, keraton (Java emperor kingdom), church, houses
or else where which consider as a good source of water.
Elderly who will bathing the bride and groom are expected to be person that already married and have a good marriage, not a divorcee. This expected will bring a good marriage for the New Couple. This could be their grandparents, parents, aunties, and uncles, or other which respected..
Person who will bathing the couples are expected to be in uneven number. Javanese people is believing uneven number are the best and only God who can make it even. So that it could be 5, 7,9, or more people could bathing the couple including the parents.
The Siraman shall begin when bride / groom fetch by their parents to the Siraman stage and they will sitting on a chair which has been prepared.
Mother will take 5 colored traditional soap which in Javanese mentioned as Konyoh Pancawarna, red, white, yellow, green and blue. These soap made from rice flour which mixed with kencur, a Javanese spice. With these soap, expected the bride and groom will have a shining skin on the wedding day. These soap will be mixed altogether and smeared on their face (forehead, both cheeks), hands, and legs.
Afterward, father will start to bath the Bride / groom from the head, shoulder to the legs, continue with mother. And then the elderly will be announce one by one to bath the couple and will receive a souvenir as appreciation from the couple.
Soon after the last elder bathing them, father will take a jug of water and cleanse all of the remaining flowers in the bride / groom body. For moslem, they will take this water for "wudhu" a part of stage before pray to Allah. As the water finish, father will give the jug to mother who will throw the jug to the floor into pieces. When she throw this she will mention that she doesn't have intention to break the jug but she wills to break the aura so that the bride / groom will look shining on the wedding day.
The ceremony will continue with cutting bit of the bride / groom hair in order to vanish all troubles. Father will start to cut the hair from 3 part and continue with mother. Later on the couples hair will be united and plant altogether in the Bride's house. The messenger who was bringing water to the groom's house will return to Bride's house with the piece of Groom's hair.
As the last thing to do in this ceremony, father and mother will cooperate to cary and hold the bride together as their last thing to do for their child who will about to marry.
The siraman ceremony has been finished. The bride and groom could take a shower and will continue the preparation for "midodareni" or we shall call it a bachelor and bachelorette party in Javanese term.
Friday, February 25, 2011
SUNGKEMAN
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Sungkeman is a very emotional moment whereas the bride and the groom will ask for forgiveness and permission from their parents for marrying their chosen one. The bride and the groom will utter their feeling of gladness and gratitude for being raised by the parents. They are apologizing for many mistakes which has been done along the years. In the end they will utter that they have been in love and wills to marry. They are hoping that the parents will bless the wedding, so that they will live happily ever after.
In this moment parents will give their permit and blessing also pray that their love child will live happily ever after.
The ceremony shall begin when the bride and groom in their separate house come out from a room and accompany by 2 aunties or 2 uncles. The Javanese master of ceremony will sing a Javanese song in their way out, which telling a story about bride / groom. This is a very thrilling moment. The bride / groom will be guided to Sungkeman place which has been prepared, and give salutation to their parents.
The bride and groom should be sit lower than the parents as symbol of their respect. Salutation will begin before the speech. With a graceful movement, bride and groom will come forward to the parents and start Sungkem (bend over to the parents knee) to their father continue with the mother. Should the bride and groom still have a grandparents the Sungkeman will be done to them too. Sungkeman to the eldest sister should be done to take permission should the Bride / Groom will be marry first and stepping their brother / sister.
In this ceremony the bride and groom are using a traditional Javanese outfit. Bride will use kebaya on top of Jumputan cloth which is going to be used in Siraman. After the Sungkeman finishes, the ceremony will be closed with photo with the family and bride / groom will change their outfit.
Sungkeman is a very emotional moment whereas the bride and the groom will ask for forgiveness and permission from their parents for marrying their chosen one. The bride and the groom will utter their feeling of gladness and gratitude for being raised by the parents. They are apologizing for many mistakes which has been done along the years. In the end they will utter that they have been in love and wills to marry. They are hoping that the parents will bless the wedding, so that they will live happily ever after.
In this moment parents will give their permit and blessing also pray that their love child will live happily ever after.
The ceremony shall begin when the bride and groom in their separate house come out from a room and accompany by 2 aunties or 2 uncles. The Javanese master of ceremony will sing a Javanese song in their way out, which telling a story about bride / groom. This is a very thrilling moment. The bride / groom will be guided to Sungkeman place which has been prepared, and give salutation to their parents.
The bride and groom should be sit lower than the parents as symbol of their respect. Salutation will begin before the speech. With a graceful movement, bride and groom will come forward to the parents and start Sungkem (bend over to the parents knee) to their father continue with the mother. Should the bride and groom still have a grandparents the Sungkeman will be done to them too. Sungkeman to the eldest sister should be done to take permission should the Bride / Groom will be marry first and stepping their brother / sister.
In this ceremony the bride and groom are using a traditional Javanese outfit. Bride will use kebaya on top of Jumputan cloth which is going to be used in Siraman. After the Sungkeman finishes, the ceremony will be closed with photo with the family and bride / groom will change their outfit.
Monday, February 21, 2011
PREPARATION FOR SUNGKEMAN AND SIRAMAN IN BBRIDE'S AND GROOM'S HOUSES
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Towards the Sungkeman and Siraman ceremony, there are things which need to be prepared. In the backyard, the wedding decorator has prepared a Siraman stage with the equipment and flowers which needed. After Bleketepe and Tuwuhan ceremony finished, the master of ceremony will advice guests to gather in the space which has been prepared.
Siraman stages is made from the webbing of coconut leaves and decorated with beautiful flowers at the top. It also completed with decorated seat and bowl for water.
Water from 7 source (could be from mosque, holy place, church, other place) has been prepared before the ceremony. Parents of the bride and groom will mix all of the water altogether with flowers and green coconut. The meaning of this stage is bathing the bride and groom with water which consider pure. Therefore their body and soul will be pure towards the wedding day.
As part of the ceremony, some of the mixed water at bride's house will be delivered to Groom's house by Bride's family. The water from Bride's house will add 6 water that has prepared by Groom's family. In return, the messenger will bring some of Groom's haircut to be planted in Bride's house.
The preparation in the Groom's house is similar with the Bride's house. After the messenger of water come to their house, parent's of the Groom will mix the water altogether with flowers and green coconut, which the water be used in Siraman of the Groom.
As the preparation for Siraman finishes, Sungkeman ceremony shall begin.
Towards the Sungkeman and Siraman ceremony, there are things which need to be prepared. In the backyard, the wedding decorator has prepared a Siraman stage with the equipment and flowers which needed. After Bleketepe and Tuwuhan ceremony finished, the master of ceremony will advice guests to gather in the space which has been prepared.
Siraman stages is made from the webbing of coconut leaves and decorated with beautiful flowers at the top. It also completed with decorated seat and bowl for water.
Water from 7 source (could be from mosque, holy place, church, other place) has been prepared before the ceremony. Parents of the bride and groom will mix all of the water altogether with flowers and green coconut. The meaning of this stage is bathing the bride and groom with water which consider pure. Therefore their body and soul will be pure towards the wedding day.
As part of the ceremony, some of the mixed water at bride's house will be delivered to Groom's house by Bride's family. The water from Bride's house will add 6 water that has prepared by Groom's family. In return, the messenger will bring some of Groom's haircut to be planted in Bride's house.
The preparation in the Groom's house is similar with the Bride's house. After the messenger of water come to their house, parent's of the Groom will mix the water altogether with flowers and green coconut, which the water be used in Siraman of the Groom.
As the preparation for Siraman finishes, Sungkeman ceremony shall begin.
Thursday, February 17, 2011
BLEKETEPE AND TUWUHAN
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Now that you have read the stages of ceremony day 1 and 2, I would like to get you further to know about the details of every stages.
In this posting, I will explain about what is BLEKETEPE and TUWUHAN
Bleketepe & Tuwuhan ceremony will be take place in bride's house, this is because in Javanese Wedding, usually Bride's parents is the host of the wedding.
All of ceremony towards the wedding will be led by a well experienced Master of Ceremony. She will open the event and let all the guests surround the front gate of Bride's house to see the Bleketepe and Tuwuhan ceremony.
In the ancient time, when he was about to celebrate his daughter's wedding, Ki Jaka Tarub, One of most legendary figure of Java, use bleketepe which is made from webbing of green coconut leaves as a tent to cover his guests who were coming and grouping on his yard. Nowadays the tradition is being continued.
As you can see that Bleketepe is sized around 90cmx60xm, this green coconut webbing will be framed at the housetop by the father of the bride and helped by his wife and other child managing the ladder.
This traditional ceremony will also using traditional outfit. Father will use a Javanese tux, wrapped cloth, traditional hat and slippers. Therefore it will be slight difficult to father for stepping ladder in that outfit.
Father should be very careful when he is stepping the ladder. A practice using sarong for stepping ladder before the event would be a very useful thing.
After framing in Bleketepe has finished, the master of ceremony will lead the parents bride to open the cover of tuwuhan which already placed in both right and left of the front gate.
Each Tuwuhan is consist of plantain, red sugar cane, green coconut, and many kind of leaves, are symbolizing hope for couples to have a respectful life, act wise, fulfilled needs, and free from troubles.
Then, bride's parents will put paddies to complete the Tuwuhan and hope that the couple will soon endowed many children.
Now that you have read the stages of ceremony day 1 and 2, I would like to get you further to know about the details of every stages.
In this posting, I will explain about what is BLEKETEPE and TUWUHAN
Bleketepe & Tuwuhan ceremony will be take place in bride's house, this is because in Javanese Wedding, usually Bride's parents is the host of the wedding.
All of ceremony towards the wedding will be led by a well experienced Master of Ceremony. She will open the event and let all the guests surround the front gate of Bride's house to see the Bleketepe and Tuwuhan ceremony.
In the ancient time, when he was about to celebrate his daughter's wedding, Ki Jaka Tarub, One of most legendary figure of Java, use bleketepe which is made from webbing of green coconut leaves as a tent to cover his guests who were coming and grouping on his yard. Nowadays the tradition is being continued.
As you can see that Bleketepe is sized around 90cmx60xm, this green coconut webbing will be framed at the housetop by the father of the bride and helped by his wife and other child managing the ladder.
This traditional ceremony will also using traditional outfit. Father will use a Javanese tux, wrapped cloth, traditional hat and slippers. Therefore it will be slight difficult to father for stepping ladder in that outfit.
Father should be very careful when he is stepping the ladder. A practice using sarong for stepping ladder before the event would be a very useful thing.
After framing in Bleketepe has finished, the master of ceremony will lead the parents bride to open the cover of tuwuhan which already placed in both right and left of the front gate.
Each Tuwuhan is consist of plantain, red sugar cane, green coconut, and many kind of leaves, are symbolizing hope for couples to have a respectful life, act wise, fulfilled needs, and free from troubles.
Then, bride's parents will put paddies to complete the Tuwuhan and hope that the couple will soon endowed many children.
Saturday, February 12, 2011
Fourth : UNDERSTANDING THE CEREMONY DAY 2
For further details please visit www.yourjavanesewedding.com
After the long preparation a day before, today is the D day when the holy matrimony, wedding vows, or the marriage will be announced and will be followed with panggih ceremony and wedding reception
a. Marriage / Holy Matrimony
This will be based on couples religion, the ceremony will be differed from the cultural ceremony. The place could take in the church, mosque, the reception building, house, etc.
b. Panggih ceremony
Panggih in Javanese language mean "meeting between the post marriage couple", which the stages consist of
Delivery of Sanggan (banana) from the Groom's Family to The Bride as a symbol of appreciation from the in laws.
Balangan (betel leaves throwing event between the couples within 3m range). In the old days if one of the couples is not a human, it will disappear with the throwed leaves.
Wiji Dadi (Stepping the egg) in this ceremony, the Groom will stepping the egg and afterward will be washed by the bride using the flowery water as a symbol of dedication to her responsible husband.
Sindur Banayung (Sindur is a red shawl with white zigzag edges) which put around the newlywed couple by Bride's mother who's holding the couple from behind, while the couple will walk onto the wedding stage and lead by Bride's father. This is symbolize Parents are showing the way to the happiness in the after marriage life. Zigzag pattern in the shawl shows that life is not straight but has many problem along the road.
Timbangan (Scaling Weight) At the stage, the Newlywed's couple will sit on bride's father lap, and Bride's mother will ask who is heavier, and Father will answer that both of couple has the same weight. The meaning is thye love for his daughter and son in law is equal.
Tanem (planting) which the Bride's father will put the Newlywed to their sit which means that their wedding is receive his permission and blessing.
Kacar-kucur (pouring) in this ceremony, the Groom will pour a pocket of seeds consist of soybeans, nuts, rice, corn, yellow rice, flower, and coins, to a cloth on hhis wife's lap. The meaning of this ceremony is that husband will give all of his income to his wife, who will manage it well and full of responsibility.
Dahar kembul (Eating) In this ceremony, the Newlywed will eat in the same dishes, and feeding each other. The meaning is that they will stay together is the sad and happy time.
After panggih ceremony finish, the following event is Sungkeman with both parents and in laws.
c. The Wedding Reception
Upon reception, the Newlywed will enter the hall guided by cucuk lampah (man who in his dance will lead the newlywed and show them the way to the stage). Newlywed will be follwed by parents and in laws, brother and sisters and also closest relatives. This procession is call Kirab
After the Newlywed and parents come to the stage, the reception could be begun with first speech from the closest relatives, praying, dancing and congratulates the Newlywed. And the guest could just enjoy the reception surroundings with Java Atmosphere and eat marvelous cuisine. in this modern era, the reception will take place for 2 hrs and it will be ended with photo session with the Newlywed.
After the long preparation a day before, today is the D day when the holy matrimony, wedding vows, or the marriage will be announced and will be followed with panggih ceremony and wedding reception
a. Marriage / Holy Matrimony
This will be based on couples religion, the ceremony will be differed from the cultural ceremony. The place could take in the church, mosque, the reception building, house, etc.
b. Panggih ceremony
Panggih in Javanese language mean "meeting between the post marriage couple", which the stages consist of
Delivery of Sanggan (banana) from the Groom's Family to The Bride as a symbol of appreciation from the in laws.
Balangan (betel leaves throwing event between the couples within 3m range). In the old days if one of the couples is not a human, it will disappear with the throwed leaves.
Wiji Dadi (Stepping the egg) in this ceremony, the Groom will stepping the egg and afterward will be washed by the bride using the flowery water as a symbol of dedication to her responsible husband.
Sindur Banayung (Sindur is a red shawl with white zigzag edges) which put around the newlywed couple by Bride's mother who's holding the couple from behind, while the couple will walk onto the wedding stage and lead by Bride's father. This is symbolize Parents are showing the way to the happiness in the after marriage life. Zigzag pattern in the shawl shows that life is not straight but has many problem along the road.
Timbangan (Scaling Weight) At the stage, the Newlywed's couple will sit on bride's father lap, and Bride's mother will ask who is heavier, and Father will answer that both of couple has the same weight. The meaning is thye love for his daughter and son in law is equal.
Tanem (planting) which the Bride's father will put the Newlywed to their sit which means that their wedding is receive his permission and blessing.
Kacar-kucur (pouring) in this ceremony, the Groom will pour a pocket of seeds consist of soybeans, nuts, rice, corn, yellow rice, flower, and coins, to a cloth on hhis wife's lap. The meaning of this ceremony is that husband will give all of his income to his wife, who will manage it well and full of responsibility.
Dahar kembul (Eating) In this ceremony, the Newlywed will eat in the same dishes, and feeding each other. The meaning is that they will stay together is the sad and happy time.
After panggih ceremony finish, the following event is Sungkeman with both parents and in laws.
c. The Wedding Reception
Upon reception, the Newlywed will enter the hall guided by cucuk lampah (man who in his dance will lead the newlywed and show them the way to the stage). Newlywed will be follwed by parents and in laws, brother and sisters and also closest relatives. This procession is call Kirab
After the Newlywed and parents come to the stage, the reception could be begun with first speech from the closest relatives, praying, dancing and congratulates the Newlywed. And the guest could just enjoy the reception surroundings with Java Atmosphere and eat marvelous cuisine. in this modern era, the reception will take place for 2 hrs and it will be ended with photo session with the Newlywed.
Thursday, February 10, 2011
Third : UNDERSTANDING THE CEREMONY DAY 1
For further details please visit www.yourjavanesewedding.com
Wedding for Javanese people is consider as a sacred thing and will happen only once for a life time. After the wedding,both parents are hoping that the couple could unite happily and can conquer all of the problems which come to their marriage. The couples gifted with children and happy life. These all hopes are symbolized in every detail of ceremonies. Therefore for Javanese, wedding ceremonies are symbolizing stages of life, within it they are put hopes and their pray.
Stages of Ceremony Towards the Wedding Reception :
a. Bleketepe & Tuwuhan (This will be take place in bride's house, bleketepe is a symbol for tent and sign that the parents will held a wedding ceremony, meanwhile tuwuhan which consist of plantain, red sugar cane, green coconut, and many kind of leaves, are symbolizing hope for couples of a respectful life, act wise, fulfilled needs, and free from troubles)
b. Sungkeman (In this stage the bride and the groom will ask for forgiveness and permission from their parents to marry their chosen one)
c. Siraman (In this stage of ceremony, parents and elderly will bathing the bride and groom with flowers and water from the seven sources, so that they will be pure approaching their wedding day.
d. Potong Rikmo ( In this stage, after bathing, parents will cut a bit of bride's and groom's hair as a symbol of freeing them from trouble, the hair will be united and burried in bride's home)
e. Midodareni (This stage of ceremony is when groom with his family are coming to bride's home and bring many presents to the bride, they cannot meet each other, it is could be define as an act for the groom to declare that he is ready to marry the bride, and the bride is also agree to accept his love, at this stage, bride's father will read The Catur Wedha or 4 advices to live a marriage life)
Wedding for Javanese people is consider as a sacred thing and will happen only once for a life time. After the wedding,both parents are hoping that the couple could unite happily and can conquer all of the problems which come to their marriage. The couples gifted with children and happy life. These all hopes are symbolized in every detail of ceremonies. Therefore for Javanese, wedding ceremonies are symbolizing stages of life, within it they are put hopes and their pray.
Stages of Ceremony Towards the Wedding Reception :
a. Bleketepe & Tuwuhan (This will be take place in bride's house, bleketepe is a symbol for tent and sign that the parents will held a wedding ceremony, meanwhile tuwuhan which consist of plantain, red sugar cane, green coconut, and many kind of leaves, are symbolizing hope for couples of a respectful life, act wise, fulfilled needs, and free from troubles)
b. Sungkeman (In this stage the bride and the groom will ask for forgiveness and permission from their parents to marry their chosen one)
c. Siraman (In this stage of ceremony, parents and elderly will bathing the bride and groom with flowers and water from the seven sources, so that they will be pure approaching their wedding day.
d. Potong Rikmo ( In this stage, after bathing, parents will cut a bit of bride's and groom's hair as a symbol of freeing them from trouble, the hair will be united and burried in bride's home)
e. Midodareni (This stage of ceremony is when groom with his family are coming to bride's home and bring many presents to the bride, they cannot meet each other, it is could be define as an act for the groom to declare that he is ready to marry the bride, and the bride is also agree to accept his love, at this stage, bride's father will read The Catur Wedha or 4 advices to live a marriage life)
Tuesday, February 8, 2011
Second : UNDERSTANDING JAVA
For further details, please visit www.yourjavanesewedding.com
Java is an island of Indonesia which has population of 136 million and becoming the world's most populous island, and one of the most densely populated regions in the world. Java island is home to 60% of Indonesia's population. In west java, located Jakarta as The Indonesian capital city. Java island is divided into four provinces, West Java, Central Java, East Java, and Banten, and two special districts, Jakarta and Yogyakarta.
Every province and district in Java has their own uniqueness which also embedded in their wedding tradition. Mine and my husband's family are coming from Central Java. So that uphold our Javanese culture in our wedding ceremony has bring sanctity and true happiness for us.
Java is an island of Indonesia which has population of 136 million and becoming the world's most populous island, and one of the most densely populated regions in the world. Java island is home to 60% of Indonesia's population. In west java, located Jakarta as The Indonesian capital city. Java island is divided into four provinces, West Java, Central Java, East Java, and Banten, and two special districts, Jakarta and Yogyakarta.
Every province and district in Java has their own uniqueness which also embedded in their wedding tradition. Mine and my husband's family are coming from Central Java. So that uphold our Javanese culture in our wedding ceremony has bring sanctity and true happiness for us.
Saturday, February 5, 2011
First : THE WEDDING THEME
For further details, please visit www.yourjavanesewedding.com
You're about to married ? Congratulations !!
You will enter a phase with so may things to decide. Take your love ones and family to help yo with this.
After you decide that you will be marrying someone and the date, off course the next thing to do is decide THE WEDDING THEME: WHAT KIND OF WEDDING WHICH YOU'LL HAVE ? Will it be a NATIONAL, INTERNATIONAL, OR THE COMPLETE CULTURAL WEDDING (Which is JAVANESE WEDDING that I will discuss further in this blog) ??
Some below questions will help you as guidance to decide a Javanese Wedding :
1. Are you a Javanese ? (you will see this from your mother or father lines)
2. Are your love ones is a Javanese ?
3. Or both of you could be not a Javanese but respect and willing to feel the enormous Java atmosphere in your wedding ?
3. Javanese wedding is a very beautiful with fascinating detail, yet in the preparation it is harsh and will need cooperation from your family and also your love ones. Are you both and big family READY for this ?
4. Do you and your family will be comfortable in using Javanese outfit?
For the male and female, they will not be wearing pants but a Javanese cloth ( we call this "jarik')which will be wrapped around and off course it will not be easy to go to the toilet. For the male pairs, a Javanese tux (we call this "Beskap" will be used) and not to forget "Belangkon" ( a traditional hat) with "Keris" ( a traditional weapon) and traditional sandals will be used during the ceremony. For the female, a big hairdo and kebaya as the pairs will be used.
This kind of outfit will be used in a long period of ceremony, 2 days in a row to be exact. And for you who is coming from different culture will not be used to this and will take some time and willingness to adapt for the culture.
If you and your family will GO with above things.. then we will continue with the other things to be prepared.
Remember, a wedding is not your and your love ones only decision.. Family discussion is the thing should be done prior determine your way.
Good Luck !!
You're about to married ? Congratulations !!
You will enter a phase with so may things to decide. Take your love ones and family to help yo with this.
After you decide that you will be marrying someone and the date, off course the next thing to do is decide THE WEDDING THEME: WHAT KIND OF WEDDING WHICH YOU'LL HAVE ? Will it be a NATIONAL, INTERNATIONAL, OR THE COMPLETE CULTURAL WEDDING (Which is JAVANESE WEDDING that I will discuss further in this blog) ??
Some below questions will help you as guidance to decide a Javanese Wedding :
1. Are you a Javanese ? (you will see this from your mother or father lines)
2. Are your love ones is a Javanese ?
3. Or both of you could be not a Javanese but respect and willing to feel the enormous Java atmosphere in your wedding ?
3. Javanese wedding is a very beautiful with fascinating detail, yet in the preparation it is harsh and will need cooperation from your family and also your love ones. Are you both and big family READY for this ?
4. Do you and your family will be comfortable in using Javanese outfit?
For the male and female, they will not be wearing pants but a Javanese cloth ( we call this "jarik')which will be wrapped around and off course it will not be easy to go to the toilet. For the male pairs, a Javanese tux (we call this "Beskap" will be used) and not to forget "Belangkon" ( a traditional hat) with "Keris" ( a traditional weapon) and traditional sandals will be used during the ceremony. For the female, a big hairdo and kebaya as the pairs will be used.
This kind of outfit will be used in a long period of ceremony, 2 days in a row to be exact. And for you who is coming from different culture will not be used to this and will take some time and willingness to adapt for the culture.
If you and your family will GO with above things.. then we will continue with the other things to be prepared.
Remember, a wedding is not your and your love ones only decision.. Family discussion is the thing should be done prior determine your way.
Good Luck !!
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